Tips for Surviving Summertime

Summer is almost here, and another school year is ending. Saying it’s all fun and games may not be the whole truth. Summer can be challenging for many, especially for those kids (and parents) who need structure. Anxiety and dread can set in. For parents, it can feel overwhelming, but with extra planning and preparation, it can actually be very enjoyable for EVERYONE!

Here are a few tips to help navigate summertime challenges. (and side note, you don’t have to be a perfect parent to do it!) 

1. Talk about upcoming changes to their normal routine NOW! Giving your child(ren) a “heads up” will help prepare them for things that may change about the days ahead. Transitions are hard already so preparing them by talking through what they can expect is a great way to prepare their brains and help in reducing the anxiety of “the unknown”.

2. Stay on a regular schedule. This is especially important for mealtimes and bedtime/naps. However, it is just as important to stay to a schedule for things like electronic time. (Warning: Overextending electronic or screen time can increase behaviors.)

3. Use social stories and visuals. Many children have trouble adapting to changes Visual schedules and social stories are just another way to prepare your child for upcoming events and activities. Chances are that your child is using social stories and/or visuals at school already.

4. Give choices and honor them. This can go a long way with ownership and especially for those children who need to feel some type of control. They are more likely to stay engaged because it is focused on things that interest them. However, don’t give too many choices. If your child struggles with choices, then give only two. For example, would you like to go outside to play or sit at the table with playdoh and sand? You can also include them in choosing larger activities (which is my next suggestion).

5. Plan activities away from home AND at home. Sit down with your child and make a list of things you would like to do together this summer. It can be as simple as a backyard picnic and water balloons to taking a trip to the petting zoo or amusement park. Having a plan of activities with dates on the calendar for the larger activities also gives everyone something big to look forward to.

6. Set boundaries and expectations. Give clear and concise instructions with expectations expressed on their level. Use positive language in what you WANT them to do rather what you do NOT want them to do. Be consistent. If something is wrong one day, it should be wrong the next day. Studies show that authoritative parenting style is the best style for proving a solid foundation. Also, provide A LOT of positive reinforcement for the behavior you want to see more of. This goes a long way in managing behaviors.

7. Have a backup plan for “weather related” activities using “or” in your language. You may choose to take a day to go to the amusement park, but many rides are not open when it is raining. Be sure to have a “back up” activity and explain that when planning. For example, you can tell your child that IF it rains the day you have planned to go to the amusement park, that you will go to the Chuck E. Cheese instead.

8. Pad your day with “time” buffers. It may take a little extra time to get everyone in the car or transitioning out of the library. Be sure to give yourself extra time. This will help them and also help you!!

9. BE PRESENT. Our babies don’t stay babies for long. The saying “the days are long, but the years are short” rings true to this Momma. I am now enjoying time with my six grandbabies. Your kids may not remember all the fun activities you did with them every summer, but they WILL remember how you made them feel valued and important by engaging WITH them. So, put down the phone. Stop worrying about the dishes in your sink and the laundry piled up. It will still be there when you get back.

Now, GO and ENJOY summer with your kids.

*If you feel you need more support or are interested in parent coaching, ABA therapy, or personal life coaching, check out my website for more information. You can also email me to set up a time for a free consultation.